What Have You Done For Me Lately?

 That is a loaded question. And I’m not here to ask you what you’ve done for ME specifically. But have you stopped and looked at how much you give freely - of your time, talent, treasures - versus how much you expect to get from others? And, does giving alot feel like a burden to you? Does it matter to you whether people thank you or appreciate what you do for them?

See, there are two kinds of people in this world. People who are value driven, and people who are entitlement driven. People who are value driven say to themselves, if I want to have more, then I must first give more (like, I will work hard, then I’ll expect you to pay me more). People who feel entitled say - when I get more from others, I’ll give more (like, if you pay me more, I’ll work harder).  This philosophy also can play out in relationships - if this person is loving, then I’ll be loving.  If this person does “XYZ”, then I will give more to the relationship.

People who are value driven - it is not a burden, a risk, or an obligation to give. Because they understand the principle of how the energy of “things”, including money, works. There is always a value exchange. Sometimes immediate, and sometimes we don’t see the return for many months or even years.  And, sometimes the value we receive back may not even be from the same person we gave to.

So people who are giving by nature, who come from a place of service, who are the opposite of a “tightwad”, seem to be happier, are more prosperous, and just have more.  People who feel entitled are waiting for the world to give them what they expect to have first before giving. And they wait around their whole lives - because it JUST doesn’t work that way.

The question - What Have You Done For Me Lately? Has two sides - our responsibility, and then what other people are doing for us. On the one hand, we must ask ourselves if we have a belief in the power of giving and if we are providing value to others. On the other, we may be inclined to look at people in our lives and judge them for not being giving or from coming from a place of entitlement.

I suggest that you stop looking at what others are giving you or judging them about what they have or haven’t done for you.  What they are doing to offer value is their business, and their “karma”.  Focus on what value you offer, and do it just because.  The energetic pay-off of giving is immense and powerful. And, just be grateful for what you receive through others and what they give to you. When you put giving into action, coupled with gratitude for what you have and receive - you will begin the process of experiencing prosperity.

I’m not saying that you should stay in relationships or situations that are harmful to you, or that you should accept behavior from others that is disrespectful.  But, when you begin giving yourself, it is amazing how that can set the tone for transforming situations and people. When you practice and model giving, even tightwads suddenly see a stark contrast to themselves by your actions. And those people tend to either loosen up, become more giving, or they will drift away as that reflection back to themselves doesn’t feel good.

So, if you want more in your life - GIVE more. You’ll see. It’s magical, and it works.

Your Partner in Prosperity,

Carol Ann Martin
Founder, Synergy Prosperity Alliance
Synergy Certified, Platinum Executive Leader/Instructor
Platinum One Destinations & Synergy Marketing Group
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Posted on August 30, 2008 by admin

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Positive Thinking Sucks

P1D Positive Thinking  We hear it all the time.. You just need to have POSITIVE THINKING and a POSITIVE ATTITUDE… Most self-help, success, sales, direct sales and network marketing books and motivational material discuss the importance of positive thinking.  And granted the idea of positivity is important.

BUT, I was listening to a speaker this week who was discussing the issue of positive thinking and finally it hit me like a hammer over the head - the reason why so many people struggle with the concept - including myself (hey, just being honest).

The reason why positive thinking doesn’t work - is because - IT SUCKS - your energy… Let me explain a real life example that happened to me just before I wrote this post so it will be clear.

I had already done this post in its entirety about two hours ago. I was sitting back with a sense of satisfaction as I went to click on “Publish”, and when I did, the entire post was gone - nadda - nothing in the post box.. I have no idea what happened. Just a freaky thing. I went back like 3 times to see if I refreshed the page or hit “back” about 10 times it would come back to the page where my original work was - NOPE.. It was gone.  A full 45 minutes of my time writing this post was gone - wasted - I thought.

So, I spent about 10 minutes trying to “fix it”, trying to re-establish the post, trying to recover. And during that time and for several minutes afterwards I started thinking - “This sucks, What a waste of precious time” “I could have been napping instead, and now I have to go somewhere.” “I won’t be able to remember everything I wrote - it was so great - and now it’s gone..” Boo hoo hoo, La, la, la… 

But then something interesting happened as I finally just gave up - shut up - and shut down my laptop and got up to go do what I had to go do.. I started to laugh. And realized that the exact thing I was blogging about was happening in my little world DURING the process of writing about it. I actually had a personal experience now with this that would better explain my thoughts on this issue. And then I was looking forward to getting back home and excited to begin rewriting this post with this perfect little story to tell, which I am DOING right now.  I’m actually feeling GRATEFUL that the post disappeared.

You see, there is a BIG difference between THINKING positive and BEING positive.  We have this wonderful thing called a brain - and it happily does it’s job every minute thinking, and thinking, and thinking - all the time. It can be so annoying sometimes. Have you ever just stopped and listened to the mindless chatter going on in your head even when you are trying to focus on something important?  The only thing I have found to turn it off is to meditate regularly. Meditating allows us to train our minds to quiet and when done regularly, anchors that experience with the consciousness of breathing.  And what happens is if you meditate regularly, just breathing will send a signal to the brain to quiet.. What a great little game to play with your head ey??

Anyway - getting back to positive thinking…

So, if you have to THINK about being positive - you are not BEING positive. If you have to think about how you should be positive because you are currently feeling guilty about confusion, worry, doubt, fear, frustration, anger, etc. etc. etc. - you are not BEING positive.  It’s too late at that point. All’s you are doing is THINKING about BEING positive - and not actually BEING.  And THAT is why most people don’t see the results of positivity in their lives. They are THINKING about how they SHOULD be positive, or struggling with their already NEGATIVE feelings and behaviors - rather than just SHIFTING AND TAKING ACTION TO BE positive.

Shifting gears and just rewriting my post is BEING positive. Even the time I spent analyzing the fact that it all worked out for the best was kind of a waste of time - as I was still THINKING about the experience - rather than just creating the positive one (rewriting the post).  THINKING does nothing but SUCK YOUR ENERGY away from time you could be spending BEING and DOING.

In order to master BEING positive - you must be able to master your mind - your thinking.  It requires the ability to see every single thing that happens and being able to control your knee jerk reaction to it - regardless of how you may or may not like it personally.  It means developing a posture of acceptance, allowance.  It means being able to see the potential, or having a belief that no matter what the situation, circumstance, or whatever, that everything that happens has a purpose - either for us - or someone else - even if we don’t personally like it.

Now don’t get me wrong. I have very strong feelings about many things - including the stupidity of war, animal and child abuse, the environment, people who do not act in integrity, corporate “slavery” as I call it, and on and on and on..  And I am in NO WAY saying that I have mastered this. Very few people have. People like Ghandi, Buddha, Jesus, Martin Luther King, etc. are some of the few that have mastered this.  I am in NO WAY at their level - YET.. But I am striving moment by moment to begin the path to mastery at that level.

So, as far as all the things I feel strongly about? All the things that happen to me, others, and the world that I feel are unfair, unjust, untruth?  I’m learning to take the judgment off of all of it. And to SHIFT MY THINKING - to BEING the change I wish to see - in my own little world - with my own little blog posts - as a start.

Martin Luther King had a saying that went something like this…  ”Darkness cannot take away darkness. Only light can do that. Hatred cannot take away hatred. Only love can do that.”

So whatever you have going on in your life, your network marketing business, your relationships, that you don’t like? Shed light and love on them. Accept and allow them to be. Then, do the one and ONLY thing you can do to make a POSITIVE change - BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE - and DO SOMETHING about it that will transform the experience - rather than struggle or THINK about it. 

Remember - POSITIVE THINKING SUCKS - your energy. BEING POSITIVE puts transformation in motion.

(And that’s why I just copied this entire post in case it freaks out on me again when I publish this!! LOL)

Your Partner in Prosperity,

Carol Ann Martin
Founder - Synergy Prosperity Alliance
Synergy Certified Platinum Executive Leader & Instructor
Platinum One Destinations & SMG
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Posted on August 17, 2008 by admin

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